Debate: do men have more sexual needs than women? Why does frustration sometimes make them look like libidinous beasts ?? Injustice, biological determinism ?? The physiological need to evacuate the semen would be the law to be the only explanation; here's why men need sex more than women

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Expert answers and solutions to save the desire in couples.

• Where does male frustration come from?
• Why do men seem so much more dependent on sex and how often they have sex than their partner? 
• A Wall Street Journal article tries to provide some answers, drawing on the analysis of psychologists who have looked into the sex life of a long-time married couple, in which the husband felt frustrated by the many refusals of his wife when it came to making love.

A need more emotional than bestial.

• Men are far from being the horny animals that we like to stigmatize too often. Beyond the biological aspect of the carnal relationship, it seems that these are driven by a powerful emotional need. 
• The experts cited even claim that intercourse is a more intense emotional experience for men than for women. 
  
• Men tend to express their feelings with actions, not words. Unlike many women, they probably do not have discussions in " Heart to Heart "With those around them, and they often limit caresses and physical signs of affection to their very close family," explains the journalist.
  

The only way to express their privacy.

• Thus, the lack of sex would become much more problematic when it is felt in a man, as Justin clarified. LEHMILLER, Harvard psychologist and specialist in sexuality: “For some men, sex is the first way to communicate and express their intimacy. To take away their sex is to take away their main emotional outlet ”.
  
• Esther PEREL, a couple and family therapist in New York City, explains that “When a man feels depressed because he is not touched, he's like the little boy who stands in his crib crying to be taken. He experiences emotional deprivation. »

How many times a week should I have sex?

• About 80% of married American couples would only have sex two to three times a month, 32% say they do it three times a week, according to figures from the University of Chicago. Scientists have looked at the state of sexual desire in long-term relationships: the conclusion published in the journal Social Psychological and Personality Science suggests that couples are best able to maintain desire when they are motivated to meet their partner's sexual needs, even when it doesn't really match their own preferences. 
• It turns out that the strength of a couple in terms of sexuality comes from the generosity shown towards each other, as Amy argues. MUISE, lead author of this study at the University of Toronto: “We believe that couples who have the greatest common sexual strength are more focused on the positive aspects of their relationship. They make love to strengthen their intimacy and to feel closer much more than to please each other. And it is this state of mind that sustains their desire for each other. »
  

Lesson to be learned to last in the bedroom: forget a little about sex, the search for your own orgasm and all the decorum that goes with it, and only seek the pleasure of the other. An old, somewhat forgotten recipe.