You want to be a good wife, read this letter from a mother to her newly-born daughter marry; you are a mother, here are the advice to give to your daughters nubiles; many homes break up for lack of practical information.
Good evening my dear daughter!
I'm glad you've finally found a man, a real one, to live your life with. Bertrand is a good boy, I know his father who is renowned for his wisdom and his advice. As they say with us : "The monkey and its tail have the same color". But if I am writing to you, it is to give you some advice on how to be a good wife. Read these words well, consume and digest them.
Don't be an obstacle between your husband and his family. This is a very serious mistake since his family is his soul and in addition, you yourself will not accept that he prevents you from seeing yours. Never forget that with us, it is not just two people who get married, but two families who unite. It is important that you have a good relationship with your in-laws. From now on, you will no longer have two parents, but four. The respect you have for us should be the same as that you will have for your husband's parents. The treatment that you inflict on Bertrand's parents will be the one he inflicts on us. As they say with us : "If you braid a friend with violence, she will do the same when you give her your head."
So never confront yourself directly with your in-laws. If you have a problem with one of them, it is better to refer it to your spouse; it is he who will have to talk to his family. If you have to get carried away, it's with him. "If you plant the nucleus of a atanga acid, the tree that you will harvest will also give acid fruits ”, proverb of with us. In other words, hatred breeds hatred. Do everything to stay on good terms with them. Talk to yourself. Make sure to always keep the shine and grace in all circumstances. Your man shouldn't marry a woman, and then end up with another.
Take care of your body in order to always arouse desire and envy in your husband. Some evenings, why not, be creative. Be naughty. If you surprise him sometimes, if you spice up your relationship from time to time, you will see that your relationship will not suffer too much from the effects of time. As they say with us : "If you want the flame to take, you have to blow". A fire that is not stirred up ends up being extinguished.
Also, I notice that your generation wants to take over the household. But I would tell you to avoid your man feeling like he was competing under his roof. In fact, men have exaggerated egos. They like to feel important. There is no denying that it is you who will make your household work, but never try to step on your man. A couple must be complementary. Sometimes you have to make your man believe that he is the boss so that he stays confident in him.
Everyone has their roles in the home. Don't make your man bear yours, and vice versa. Marriage is not always a nest of happiness. There are, and always will be, challenges. Do you know why you will wear a small hood with holes in the customary wedding as is the tradition? This hood, or this basket, will symbolize your heart. A hood with a hole in it never fills. This is how you should be. You won't have to get carried away with anything and everything, otherwise your marriage will never hold. "A wharf that overflows with every rain scares the campers away", they say back home. Store your anger, and drown it. The couples who lasted the longest are not the ones who never had problems.
Don't make him feel like he's in jail. This is why he should not be categorically prohibited from seeing his companions. Men give special importance to their friends. Forbidding them to see their friends is like snatching a pacifier from a child. He may be angry with you deep inside him. As a result, he will no longer be happy. It's better to give him some free space so that he doesn't feel suffocated. For this, you can come across a compromise. For example, you will give him free time with his friends two evenings a week. It's better than passing for a dictator! Be a source of motivation for your husband. “Behind a great man hides a great lady”, they say. So be the great lady, not behind, but alongside your man. Build your man, propel him in his businesses and be an incubator of ideas. “Profiteers marry men who have built their lives, real women beat their husbands”. Make sure that your husband's success is also the work of your hands.
There are two other things you should never put up with: having another woman, in this case a cleaning lady, cook for your husband and wash his underwear. The family meal in a home is very important, I would even say sacred. The concoct must not be for a stranger. You don't know how she prepares, or really what she puts in it. Some shrews sometimes take advantage of it to immerse themselves in spells in order to tear off the husbands of others. And then a dish concocted by you helps to strengthen your bonds. Last thing, communicate! Most couples' problems come from misunderstandings and misunderstandings. When in doubt, about anything, speak with your man. You don't sleep with resentment in your heart, at the risk of having your face flushed all day. "Whoever sleeps with an itchy ass wakes up with a stinky finger," said my grandfather.
I will stop there, even if there is still a lot to say. You are a woman now, and I expect you to behave like one. By the way, my mother once said to me: “A woman's first child is her husband”. Your mother, who will always be there for you (…).
Proverb: by Tolstoy (Artist, writer, Novelist "1828 - 1910")